Greetings Amazing Patty,

It's hard to believe we are one year into COVID. As you have experienced over the past year, home life and the workplace has undergone unprecedented change. More employees are working remotely, and those working on-site are coping with pandemic-related restrictions and guidelines. Schedules and guidelines are constantly changing!

But spring is here, along with hopes for more normalcy and certainty in our lives.

Since the focus in last month's newsletter was on burnout, I thought it would be the perfect time to focus on resilience this month. I am truly amazed at the resiliency I have witnessed in colleagues, clients, friends and family members this year! 

                                                           Resilience
is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress - such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors.

Why do some people bounce back from adversity and misfortune? Why do others fall apart? Researchers have been asking these questions for some time now. Here is a short synopsis of what they uncovered.

Al Siebert, PhD, writes that "highly resilient people are flexible, adapt to new circumstances quickly, and thrive in constant change." He writes, "... they expect to bounce back and feel confident that they will. They have a knack for creating good luck out of circumstances that many others see as back luck." 

Resilient people:

Have a Positive mindset. They find a redeeming potential or value in most challenges and allow their negative emotions sit side-by-side with other feelings. They tend to find some silver lining in even the worst of circumstances.

Have a Learner mindset. When faced with challenges, they ask, "What is useful here?" or "Why are my available choices?" as opposed to "Judger questions" like "What wrong?" or "Who's to blame?"

Give, receive, and appreciate acts of kindness. Resilient people express gratitude, take mental breaks, spend time outdoors, and surround themselves with people they enjoy.

Take care of themselves. Resilient people recognize that good health and a regular routine of healthy habits are foundational to both mental and emotional resilience. 

Hang on to Humor. Resilient people recognize playful humor reduces tension. The use humor to reframe challenging situations.

Resiliency is an essential leadership competency that requires emotional and social effectiveness skills for several levels of relationships: first, the relationship with oneself; second, relationship with others; and thirdly, relationship with one's own environment (Salmon, C. Lee, The International Journal of Coaching in Organizations, 2009). 

How Resilient Are You? Take this quiz adapted from Siebert's book, the Resiliency Advantage.

Rate Yourself from 1 to 5 ( 1 = strongly disagree; 5 =strongly agree)

  1. I'm usually optimistic. I see difficulties as temporary and expect to overcome them.
  2. Feelings of anger, loss and discouragement don't last long.
  3. I can tolerate high levels of ambiguity and uncertainty about situations.
  4. I adapt quickly to new developments. I'm curious. I ask questions.
  5. I'm playful. I find the humor in rough situations and can laugh at myself.
  6. I learn valuable lessons from my experiences and from the experiences of others.
  7. I'm good at solving problems. I'm good at making things work well.
  8. I'm strong and durable. I hold up well during tough times.
  9. I'm converted misfortune into good luck and found benefits in bad situations.

Less than 20: Low Resilience - You may have trouble handling pressures, setbacks, and may feel deeply hurt by any criticism. When things don't go well, you may feel helpless and without hope. Consider seeking some professional support in developing your resiliency skills. Connect with others who share your developmental goals.

20–30: Some Resilience — You have some valuable pro-resiliency skills, but also plenty of room for improvement. Strive to strengthen the characteristics you already have and to cultivate the characteristics you lack. You may also wish to seek some outside coaching or support.

30–35: Adequate Resilience — You are a self-motivated learner who recovers well from most challenges. Learning more about resilience, and consciously building your resiliency skills, will empower you to find more joy in life, even in the face of adversity.

35–45: Highly Resilient — You bounce back well from life’s setbacks and can thrive even under pressure. You could be of service to others who are trying to cope better with adversity.

Used by permission. © Copyright 2005 Practical Psychology Press, adapted from Chapter 2 in The Resiliency Advantage (Berrett-Koehler) by Al Siebert, PhD. All rights reserved.

 

Books and Podcasts

As you know, I'm always looking for new books to read and podcasts to listen to. Here are a few suggestions:


How Women Rise
, by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith, 2018

Helgesen and Goldsmith have synthesized years of leadership coaching experience to write a primer for women, identifying the forms of self-sabotage that women are particularly prone to engage in and offering practical advice, easily implemented, on how to overcome these success-inhibiting habits. How Women Rise identifies some hindering baggage that may be holding women back, and offers strategies for substituting more constructive behaviors instead.
Click here to purchase from Amazon


Shine, Ignite Your Inner Game to Lead Cousciously at Work and in the World
, by Carley Hauck, 2021
 
Carley Hauck's new book supports leaders, and anyone who influences or manages others, to fulfill their responsibilities to their mission while also evolving their own consciousness. It shows how you really can "make yourself (a better person), while making a living." The book teaches mindfulness practices, communication strategies, and conflict resolution skills that should be in the toolkit of anyone interested in being a fully functioning person. One entire chapter focuses on resiliency. And, as Carley shows us, the key to good leadership-- is being the kind of person who lives courageously, communicates mindfully, and models lifelong learning and self-awareness. Click here to purchase from Amazon

 


Brene Brown interviews Eric Mosley in a Podcast 

In this podcast, Brene Brown talks with Eric Mosley, CEO and co-founder of Workhuman, about his new book, Making Work Human: How Human-Centered Companies are Changing the Future of Work and the World. His transformative work is based on 50 million data points and is leading the charge to dismantle old HR processes and challenge organizations to build new ways to connect with the modern workforce. Click here to listen

 

COMING SOON...

Announcing a New Facebook Group  - The Bold and Brave Brigade

A community of mid-level female leaders in public service and government who aspire even higher levels of excellence and achievement for themselves and for other women.

This group encourages networking, support, and information exchange among group members in an effort to forge collaboration and collegiality. Bold and brave in actions and decisions, we lead by example using our unique gifts and talents for good. We overcome fear that may be holding us back from being our most authentic and creative self.

If this interests you or know of women who may be interested, please send me an email.

I continue to think of you and welcome your insights on what's going well for you and what you're finding challenging.

Until next time, may you and your family stay well and resilient.

Warmly,

Patty Maples
Your Transition Coach for Career & Life

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Patty Maples
Patty Maples Transition Coaching for Career and Life

Berryville VA 22611
United States of America